The motivation to practice Naikan is very individual.
Here are some reasons why people attend a Naikan retreat:
- Understand oneself better
- Understand others better
- Find a solution to a difficult situation (e.g. problems with partnership, difficult working situation, illness...)
- Prepare for a new situation (e.g. new job, marriage, moving to another town, retirement...)
- Have a close look on one's conduct of life with regard to one's spiritual or religious belief
- Wish to change something in one's life in order to find happiness
Naikan requires your active participation. A Naikan retreat is no entertainment programme. There is no doctrine. It's all about you finding your own truth. Naikan is for people of every age.
Self-awareness
- Naikan is a method to explore your inner self. You will discover treasures deep inside of you. Naikan helps to understand yourself and others better.
- Naikan helps to find peace with things that happened in the past. Based on this, you will find new ways to live your life in happiness.
- Naikan helps to develop inner peace under any adverse circumstances.
Self-healing and therapeutic effects
- If you are struggling with a problem (e.g. in your partnership, in your working situation, illness, etc.), Naikan can give you support.
- Exploring the past and looking at things through the lense of the three questions, Naikan often opens new perspectives to the problem you are dealing with.
- Naikan has therapeutic effects, that's why it's seen and applied as psychotherapy in Japan. As we understand Naikan and psychotherapy in Europe, Naikan cannot be considered as psychotherapy. Naikan lies on the borderline between psychotherapy and spirituality.
Self-realization and spirituality
- Through Naikan you can get in touch with your spirituality.
- Although Naikan has its roots in Buddhism, Naikan has no religious content. Whatever is your religion, Naikan can deepen your belief.
- No path of self-realization can exist without finding and developing one's potentials. Naikan is a tool to have a close look on your attitudes, thoughts and actions. Naikan shows how your spirituality or religion influences your everyday life.
Naikan guides see Naikan as a way of life. Being aware of what you are doing, verifying your actions asking the three questions of Naikan, in every moment.
Only condition required to practice Naikan is the ability to clearly distinguish memory and reality from fantasy and fiction. For this reason Naikan is inappropriate for people suffering from perceptual disorder, psychosis, dementia.
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The Naikan practice requires your willingness and ability to spend a lot of time alone, devoting yourself to your memories and introspection. You address your own life story and thereby focus on one caregiver or one topic. You allocate the memories to the 3 Naikan questions.
The 3 Naikan questions are the methodical tools:
- What has [person X] done for me? What have I received?
- What have I done for [person X]? What have I given?
- What difficulties have I caused [person X]?
The Naikan conversations give your day a certain structure. As a Naikan guide, I support you, above all, through active listening. Anything that comes up or shows up, is allowed.
Do you already have some experience with meditation or longer silent seminars?If you meditate or have taken part in a silent seminar spanning over a few days (e.g. mindfulness practice, Zen, Vipassana, fasting week, spiritual exercises...), then you’ve already experienced the fact that thoughts and feelings come and go, that life can sometimes get boring, that the mind wanders... you will experience the same thing with Naikan. Then just bring your focus back to the Naikan exercise.
Meditation (e.g. breathing exercises, Zen, Vipassana, MBSR, body journeys...) is often associated with holding a certain posture. This is different with Naikan: there is no prescribed posture that you need to hold. You can sit, lie, stand, move. Anything that helps your Naikan work is fine.
The goal of meditation is to learn to observe one’s own mind and then to direct the thoughts. To this end, Naikan opts for the path of controlling one's own mind by specifying clear time frames in which memories are called up and sorted out using the three Naikan questions as the primary tool. In Naikan, the mind isn’t supposed to be emptied, but the abundance of thoughts and feelings should be perceived and directed differently than before.
Do you already have some experience with psychotherapy or coaching?If you have experience with psychotherapy or coaching, you already know that your past and your personal experiences are very valuable. Naikan is different to coaching and many therapeutic approaches in that it is not problem- or solution-oriented. In Naikan, it’s about the wealth of experiences. Whether joyful or sad or neutral, everything that you’ve experienced forms the foundation of who you are today.
If you’ve worked with associative methods in therapy or coaching, during which you have been able to recognize links between different events or times or people, you will learn a completely different approach with Naikan. Naikan is chronological biographical work. You follow your own life path and focus on one person (or topic); one person (or topic) at a time.
Coaching and countless psychotherapy methods use the conversation to question, analyze, and explore links together. It's different with Naikan. The primary task of the Naikan guide is to listen attentively during the Naikan conversation. The guide does not comment on what has been said, it is not discussed or analyzed. The perspective that you gain from your answers to the three Naikan questions, is alright.
Please note: The prerequisite for partaking in a Naikan retreat is in any case that you have clear cognitive abilities. Naikan is not a substitute for medical or psychological care. In the case of health restrictions (e.g. taking medication or psychoactive substances that impair perception and concentration, or other physical or psychological restrictions that require special consideration), please have a preliminary discussion about it with the seminar guide.
There are Naikan centers and Naikan guides in Austria, Germany, Switzerland, Spain, Japan, USA, and other countries.
Naikan Retreats for everyone who would like to practice introspection:
Some of the Naikan centers you find here.
Naikan in its original form is a one-week retreat. Intensive Naikan is more than 100 hours of self-reflection in a quiet place, guided by a Naikan guide. A Naikan retreat is intense, you work on your experience with relationships and themes from morning till night, every day.
Naikan retreats on-site
- 5-days Naikan
- 7-days Naikan
- 10-days Naikan
- 1-day Naikan
- 3-days Naikan
Online Naikan retreats
- 5-days Naikan
- 3-days Naikan
- 1-day Naikan
Naikan practice in everyday life
- Naikan in written form
- Daily Naikan
Naikan
Over time, various combinations of Naikan with other methods have emerged.
Naikan week or 5-days Naikan retreat on-site or online
Naikan means intensive self-reflection in a quiet place, guided by a Naikan guide. Usually a retreat takes place on-site in a Naikan Center or seminar house. Now there are also online retreat offers.1-day Naikan
People who already attended an intensive Naikan retreat can continue or deepen their practice attending 1-day Naikan at their own pace.
1-day Naikan is also accessible for people without prior Naikan experience. In this case it is recommended to practice 1-day Naikan during a certain period of time (e.g. a 1-day Naikan every month during one year).
Naikan in written form
Basically you can practice Naikan at home without guidance or a special setting. Just take some time to do Naikan self-reflection. You can use a diary to write down the answers you find to the three questions of Naikan.
Naikan in written form can also be guided by Naikan guides.Naikan practice in everyday life
"One-week Naikan is the beginning, daily Naikan is the aim." These are the words of Naikan's founder Mr. Yoshimoto. Daily Naikan is a way of life. It's a challenge to integrate Naikan practice in everyday life using the three questions to cultivate awareness.
My personal vision is Naikan in every moment, being aware of my actions and their consequences in my inner world as well as in the world outside.
Is a one-week retreat the best Naikan practice?
What are the effects of only one or two days Naikan?
Is it possible to cultivate introspection and inner peace in everyday life?
There is no doubt:
The best way to practice Naikan is a one-week retreat.
Why?
You need about two days to adapt to quietness and to be able to leave everyday life behind. It usually takes another two days to stabilise inner quietness and to experience deep insight. On the fifth day your perception might change and you slowly start to see things just as they are. Problems and solutions fade into the background. Main themes take shape.
The depth of insight depends on how long you go into silence.
Does this mean that short Naikan is a bad choice?
My answer is no. Many Naikan participants have teached me that even a one-day Naikan can be effective, even without prior Naikan experience. It all depends on motivation. If someone decides to really face his or her attitude towards a person or a topic, he or she will certainly benefit from Naikan's quietness and three questions.
All you need is determination. Which is exactly the same determination you need to cultivate introspection and inner peace in everyday life. Yes, it is possible, you can do it!